Are you really doing what you want?

One thing that's beautiful is to witness how exposure to the passion and creativity of the Tango community inspires people to move their lives in a direction that is more aligned with their authentic self. 

I meet so many people and it's easy by now to spot those who are in inner conflict. When you'e stuck in it - as I was for so many years, as I still am sometimes now - it feels so confusing and tangled. But maybe it can be simpler. 

Three ways we create inner conflict

  • If you want to do it, and you pretend you don't - you'll feel conflicted. 

  • If you don't want to do it, and you pretend you do - you'll feel conflicted. 

  • And if you don't know whether you want to do it or not - but you think you SHOULD know - you'll feel conflicted. 

The main thing I've learned over the years is summed up in my favorite personal adage: "If it's fun, it's fun. If it's not, it's not." 

But, sometimes the really fun things require lots of hours of fun that you think you don't want to have, or that you mistakenly convince yourself isn't fun at all. 

Questions for journaling: 

How can you unify your intent so you are always really doing exactly what you want? What changes do you need to make to your thinking - or your life? How much more honest could you be? 


Mitra Martin

Mitra Martin is Program Director at the Oxygen Tango where her focus is developing an interconnected community learning experience, and facilitating conversation around excellence in Tango as a portal to personal and social transformation.